This is about an interesting article in hbr.org about criticism. Link was shared via a LinkedIn News e-mail.
Here’s a question guaranteed to make your stomach lurch: “Would you mind if I gave you some feedback?”
What that actually means is “Would you mind if I gave you some negative feedback, wrapped in the guise of constructive criticism, whether you want it or not?”
Summarizing that articles’ main 3 points:
- Don’t take into consideration only your needs, react with sensitivity and compassion.
- Hold the other person’s value, don’t just attack her.
- “Seek first to understand.” i.e. when you tell a story it is just an interpretation and can have flaws or miss things.
Read the source article if you want to understand it all more clearly.
Source: Harvard Business Review
